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You Win Some, You Lose Some: One of 2017’s Biggest Lessons

Here’s to being vulnerable…

As I sit here, contemplating the last post of the year (which isn’t saying too much given my record for 2017), one of the things that made this year different was my love life. For most of adulthood, it’s been pretty non-existent, but this year I spent a lot of time with a great guy. It didn’t work out for us in the end, but I’m fortunate to still call him a friend.

Not long after we called it quits, I sat down at my computer to write about what I learned from our relationship. I originally intended it to be a blog post, but after deciding it felt too personal, the only person I shared it with was my therapist.

In my previous post, I mentioned that one of my goals for 2018 is to be more open and vulnerable, in all aspects of my life. Because of that, and the fact that this is some of the most honest, personal writing I’ve done in a long time, I’ve decided to share a slightly edited version of the entry I wrote back in September here, now. Warning: it’s a bit long and navel gaze-y.

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Friendship, Relationships

My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship

My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship
My Right Tribe: The power of female friendship

Female Friendship

‘Tis the season of reflection and gratitude. Last month, after one too many glasses of wine at the airport celebrating a successful work trip, I got sentimental on the flight home with Other Erin. Of all the things I’m grateful for this year, her friendship tops the list. I got to thinking about how (hashtag)blessed I’ve been in the strong female friendship department. They say your vibe attracts your tribe, and if that’s true, I don’t know what I’m putting out there, but I thank goddess for it. Throughout my life and my many moves, I’ve been so fortunate to have strong, smart, supportive women in my corner. Each friendship has been a gift that came along exactly when I needed it, especially as I grew into adulthood.

From Kait, Ana, Jody and Asia in New York, to Gail, Ree, my Rooftop Tuesday gals, Aletha and Mere in California, to Angerah in London, to Felisha, my #summerbodies besties, and my #righttribe at work in Nashville, each woman has made my life so much better just by being a part of it.

When I was growing up, I was a very mediocre tennis player. In competitive sports, they tell you to practice with players more skilled so you can improve. I think that’s true in relationships too. Lord knows I have had frenemies that were not good for me…spent too much time with people who did not bring out the best in me. But each of the ladies above (plus many more who I didn’t name) have made me a better person than I was before I met them. They bring out the best parts of me, and if I can give them a fraction of that in return, I’d consider it a win.

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” ― Anaïs Nin, The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Vol. 1: 1931-1934